Does anyone else think it’s unfair once you get married that you have to start over at zero years? Once someone knows you are married, they never ask how long you’ve been together, they only ask how long you’ve been married. Some people go to the trouble to clarify… We’ve been married a year, but together for four.
Certainly, your wedding day is one of life’s most celebrated days year after year with so many wonderful memories and reminders of the promises you made to each other. Wedding anniversaries hallmark the day that you chose your person for life. You chose to love them. You promised to choose them forevermore.
Fauxversaries are so different because it’s not a celebration of a choice, per say. You did choose to go on a date, or have a first conversation or kiss. But you didn’t actively choose an attraction. There is something so unexplainable about the draw between two people in the beginning. Some people call it fate, the "meet cute". No commitment was made, no promises. The only thing holding you together is sheer desire. Lust. For each other’s minds, each other’s bodies, each other’s dreams, each other’s vulnerabilities and innermost secrets. Feeding these desires is the gateway drug to love.
Wow. I think that is something to be celebrated. It allows you to shift the focus off of your commitment for a moment in order to remember that what you’ve built started out as an emotion that came against your will. Being in touch with that year after year, stirring up the aching in your heart, the longing in your soul to connect, and stay connected, is how the forevermores happen.
*that look* You know, the one in the picture above... that is the one that I am striving for every single day.
The fauxversaries beget the anniversaries. Celebrate love and all the amazing moments that happen in your life as often as possible.